Supporting loved ones with their mental health over Christmas

The Christmas period can be a difficult time for people for lots of different reasons. If you are supporting a loved one who is experiencing mental health difficulties, there are some things you can do to help them and yourself.

Dr Sheena Aspil, consultant clinical psychologist, has shared this advice:

• Talk to your loved one about what they need. Let them know that you’re there for them when they are ready to talk or need some support.
• Make a plan about what activities you’ll be doing together over the holidays. Socialising in large groups or for long periods of time can be exhausting when you’re struggling with your emotions. It can feel reassuring to have an agreed plan about where you are going to go, who will be there, and for how long you will be there.
• Do keep active. Some people feel like going away for the holidays, but that can make the situation worse. Plan short walks outside, brief meet up with friends for coffee or cake if you don’t feel able for a full meal out.
• Remember people are often doing their best even when they seem to be struggling with small things. Break down big jobs like “wrapping all the presents” into smaller steps like “find or buy wrapping paper and Sellotape, wrap one or two presents a day, find or buy cards, write 1 or 2 cards a day” etc.
• Plan time for relaxation. The holidays can feel hectic. Allow time for you both to have a hot bath and early night, a movie and popcorn at home with the family, or simply some down time with a cup of tea before moving onto the next task.
• Make sure you have enough prescribed medication to last the holidays and it is stored safely.
• Finally, take time for yourself! Looking after loves ones is important, but so are you. You need to feel calm and rested so that you can give your loved one the compassion and time they need from you.